If you find that flirting is causing an issue in your relationship you are not alone! Before it gets out of hand however, you should certainly sit down with your partner and discuss the rules and boundaries before it has a negative impact on your relationship. Before setting the rules remember that you are equal partners and whatever you decide must work for the both of you. Here are some questions you and your partner should answer. First, what do each consider as flirting? Why do you feel the need to flirt, what are you looking for? What flirting behaviors do each of you consider to be acceptable versus not acceptable? Also cover the other areas such as text flirting or online flirting. Flirting doesn’t only include being face to face and occurs in all sorts of situations. Once all of this is determined, set the rules. Set up what will happen if your partner goes too far with the flirting. Also come up with a signal that your partner will be able to read when you feel the flirting is going a bit too far. It may be a few words such as, “I think we should leave now,” or whichever code words will work. If this doesn’t help then you may want to seek some help from a counseling professional.